{"id":357,"date":"2017-04-24T14:37:00","date_gmt":"2017-04-24T14:37:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/slavkasekulic.from.hr\/?p=357"},"modified":"2017-04-26T12:46:44","modified_gmt":"2017-04-26T12:46:44","slug":"nesvjesno-sabotiranje-sebe-ponasanje-kroz-ogranicenja-nastala-na-osnovu-najranijih-iskustava","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/slavkasekulic.from.hr\/?p=357","title":{"rendered":"1: Faza postojanja"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>Nesvjesno sabotiranje sebe, pona\u0161anje kroz ograni\u010denja nastala na osnovu najranijih iskustava.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Prenatalna faza postavlja temelj za sve faze koje slijede. Tijekom devet mjeseci, ako sve ide dobro, bebino se tijelo razvija u maternici. U trenutku oplodnje nastaje prva stanica koja nosi energiju roditelja pri za\u010de\u0107u. Kako vrijeme prolazi, tako se postepeno razvijaju svi bebini sustavi do punog potencijala. U isto vrijeme to novo bi\u0107e oblikuje sebe unutar majke, prema maj\u010dinoj vibraciji i energiji, kao i okru\u017eenju u kojem se majka nalazi. Velik utjecaj na jo\u0161 nero\u0111enu bebu \u010dine reakcije okoline na maminu trudno\u0107u i \u017eeljenost bebe. Ako majka razmi\u0161lja o prekidu trudno\u0107e, beba \u0107e to jako osjetiti kao osje\u0107aj ne\u017eeljenosti, nevoljenosti i kao strah od smrti.<\/p>\n<p>Glavno pitanje ove faze: Je li za mene sigurno razvijati se u utrobi majke i roditi se?<\/p>\n<p>Kada razvojni zadaci ove faze nisu zadovoljeni, u kasnijem se \u017eivotu u odre\u0111enim situacijama mo\u017eemo vratiti (regresirati) u taj period, osje\u0107aju\u0107i pritom intenzivno njen utjecaj, ne znaju\u0107i \u0161to je i o \u010demu se radi.<\/p>\n<p>Primjeri (nevjesne) regresije u fazu postajanja:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Kada nam se javi potreba da stanemo kako bi sabrali svoje misli i osje\u0107aje jer ne\u0161to ne \u0161tima, a ne znamo \u0161to.<\/li>\n<li>Nemamo odgovore za\u0161to ne\u0161to radimo ili ne radimo. Nismo u mogu\u0107nosti to jasno artikulirati.<\/li>\n<li>Kada nas preplavi osje\u0107aj nepotpunosti (osje\u0107aj da me nema, da ne postojim).<\/li>\n<li>Neobja\u0161njiv, iracionalni strah ili kroni\u010dna napetost iz neobja\u0161njivih razloga.<\/li>\n<li>Kroni\u010dna depresija, misli o samoubojstvu.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Bivanje, postojanje.<\/p>\n<p>Kada se rodimo trebamo biti nahranjeni i njegovani, treba nam netko tko \u0107e paziti na na\u0161e potrebe, tko \u0107e nam se obra\u0107ati s ljubavlju i pa\u017enjom. Kroz kontakt dobivamo sve \u0161to je potrebno za izgradnju tjelesnih stanica. Kroz dodir ugra\u0111ujemo unutarnju sigurnost i povjerenje u \u017eivot i ljude.<br \/>\nNa bazi toga \u0161to smo dobili, donosimo odluke o tome tko smo, \u0161to je \u017eivot i \u0161to nam je potrebno da bi pre\u017eivjeli. U ovoj ranoj fazi, reakcijom drugih na na\u0161 pla\u010d, na na\u0161e potrebe, izgra\u0111ujemo stav o tome jesmo li, ili nismo, ohrabreni i podr\u017eani da budemo ovdje onakvi kakvi zaista jesmo.<br \/>\nZa izlazak iz prve faze postojanja i prelazak u novu fazu, osje\u0107aji ljubavi, sigurnosti, razigranosti, nje\u017enog kontakta i emocionalne ispunjenosti sa drugom osobom, trebaju ve\u0107 biti ugra\u0111eni u nas. Za zavr\u0161etak ove faze, imali mi 3 mjeseca ili 40 godina, potreban nam je fizi\u010dki kontakt i prisutnost kroz dodir ispunjen ljubavlju.<\/p>\n<p>Kada prva faza nije pro\u0161la kako treba radimo sabota\u017eu na svoju \u0161tetu, kroz ograni\u010davaju\u0107a pona\u0161anja:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>nastojimo izbje\u0107i bilo \u0161to osje\u0107ati.<\/li>\n<li>bojimo se da drugi saznaju kako nam ne\u0161to treba.<\/li>\n<li>mo\u017eemo \u201e\u017euriti da odrastemo\u201c prikrivaju\u0107i pritom strah, pori\u010du\u0107i na\u0161u potrebu za blisko\u0161\u0107u, ljubavlju i pa\u017enjom.<\/li>\n<li>mo\u017eemo \u201eostati mali\u201c u strahu, pasivni, ne rade\u0107i ni\u0161ta i nervozno \u010dekaju\u0107i da drugi otkriju \u0161to nije u redu, \u0161to nam treba.<\/li>\n<li>umjesto da tra\u017eimo emocionalnu i fizi\u010dku bliskost, postajemo kruti i depresivni, crnih misli i osje\u0107aja, dr\u017ee\u0107i pritom druge osobe na distanci.<\/li>\n<li>stalno smo zaposleni, fizi\u010dki i intelektualno, kako bismo pobjegli i sakrili od unutarnjih osje\u0107aja.<\/li>\n<li>&#8230;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p><i>Nesvjesno sabotiranje sebe, pona\u0161anje kroz ograni\u010denja nastala na osnovu najranijih iskustava.<\/i><\/p>\n<p>Prenatalna faza postavlja temelj za sve faze koje slijede. 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